Anger is a complex human emotion that all human beings experience and often find confusing. Anger causes confusion because it is often viewed as a behavior. It is equated with violence, withholding, demanding, aggression, meanness, hurt, and/or cruelty rather than as a feeling. People have behavioral responses to anger, but anger is not a behavior; anger is an emotion!
How does anger show up in your relationships? Is there a pattern that you repeat? Think of the last three times you have had difficulty in your primary relationships: Did you talk directly about these difficulties? Was anger involved in these situations (either directly or indirectly)? Was the anger addressed in your discussion? Can you give a name to your pattern of dealing with anger?